Finding your Identity in Christ

To the mom who thinks she’s fat,

Has it been 3 months, 4 days, 3 hours and 59 minutes since you last had a good night sleep?  Chances are you probably can’t remember the last time you actually slept through the night after having a baby.  Here’s the thing about no sleep, it makes you a little crazy.

Ok, it makes me a whole a lot of crazy plus throw in imbalanced hormones, and your mind starts going to crazy irrational places.

No matter how good or bad my day was going weeks after having a baby I couldn’t stop obsessing over how much I felt like a fat sack of lard. So harsh, I know.

While pregnant you probably read that breastfeeding ‘’burns’’ calories. Thus, making weight loss just a little easier.  For some, it takes no time at all for the weight to fly off while others are still looking at the scale years later waiting on that number to drop.

I would have days when I struggled so much with my weight that every thought I had ended with because I’m fat. My struggles or thoughts for the day had nothing to do with my weight, but yet that’s where my mind went.

It doesn’t help that everywhere you turn on social media, Pinterest or at the grocery store as you check out, you are bombarded with exciting weightless stories.   They excitedly proclaim  how certain women lost their baby weight in as little as 6 weeks and now they are back to having a 6 pack.

Sure, you can view those stories as inspiring or encouraging, but honestly, they are depressing so very depressing.

Studies found that on average it takes women 18 months after having a baby to start feeling confident again.

This tells me one thing.

Gaining your confidence back takes time and doesn’t happen overnight.

Pregnancy and the months after having baby can bring on many irrational and negative thoughts even during a happy and exciting time.

Obsessing over weight loss and your old body and life can destroy.  It will corrode your body mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Finding Christ during Weightloss

The world tells us we aren’t good enough or pretty enough if we aren’t at our ideal weight.

Our identity is not in the number that reads on the scale. Our identity is found in the one who knows the number of hairs on our head.

What exactly does it mean to know our identity in Christ? It means we know and accept these verses to always be true.

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this.  While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Meaning-You are so loved

1 Corinthians 6:20  For you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Meaning-You are treasured and valuable

Hebrews 13:5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have.  God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

Meaning-You are accepted and never alone

If we believe that we are loved, valued, and accepted then we may struggle with things like weight loss, but we don’t let extra pounds on the scale define us.

When we have thoughts of doubt and insecurity, we don’t dwell on them, but instead, we dwell in Him.


Only when we find our value in Him will we truly feel free from the pressures and anxieties of the world.  Only then will we feel comfortable in our skin.

Sincerely, just another mom dealing with insecurities and striving to know her identity in Christ.

Honey, Lamb and I

5 comments on “Finding Identity in Him”

  1. Summer, just dropping in check out your blog being one of your new Twitter followers. Thank you for following me.

    I appreciate so much your honesty. I have 4 adult and nearly adult children and I do recall the struggles of self worth my precious wife encountered in the months following having our babies. It is not easy.

    There are so much strength that can be drawn from the verses and words that you shared. And they can apply to a much greater readership than new mothers. In my own life I struggle with my mental health from time to time. and I have to cling to my Saviour to restore my worth and identity.

    This is a wonderful ministry you have here with other mothers. I LOVE the picture with your hubby on your “About Page”.

    God’s blessings,


    • Thank you so much for stopping by and for your kind words, it means so much. A great remember insecurities don’t discriminate, and we all have a battle to face. As hard as it can be, I know there is such power in sharing our struggles and giving them to God!

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