How Can We Be Wrong When It Feels Right?

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How can you be wrong when it feels right?

When was the last time you were wrong about something?

How long did it take you to realize you were wrong?

I think we can all agree, that everyone makes mistakes.
Romans 5:8 While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Here’s the problem with being wrong, we could be wrong about something for days, weeks, even years; so how does it feel to be wrong about something for so long? It feels awful, terrible!

But does it?

In reality, it didn’t feel terrible, because during those days, weeks, or years it didn’t feel like we were wrong and many of us weren’t even aware of it.

The feeling of being wrong feels like nothing.

Or

I guess we could argue the feeling of being wrong, feels like being right. After all, why would do something for so long if it felt wrong?

Kathryn Shultz gives an excellent analogy of the state of being wrong. She talks about the famous roadrunner and coyote cartoon.

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She says, “in the state of being wrong we are the roadrunner after he’s run off the cliff but before he’s looked down.”

We are already in trouble; we are so far in trouble we’ve run off the cliff. Now if we knew we were doing something wrong, we would have stopped before we ran off the cliff or even approached the cliff.

As humans, as sinners, we often find ourselves already off the cliff, by then it’s too late, it’s only a matter of time before we look down and realize the mess that surrounds us.

Our inner feelings and desires can deceive us.

They feel right. They look right. But in reality, they lead us off the cliff.

So many of us profess to be Christians, but we still look and act like the rest of the world.

I was running late for a meeting that was after hours, it wasn’t in the safest part of town, but I was trying to be cautious. All the sudden, two men jumped out and beat me until I handed over my purse and jewelry. I arrived at my meeting late and apologized for my tardiness but explained what just had occurred and how I had just been brutally beaten for my belongings.

My client starred at me dazed and confused. My make-up was perfectly applied, not a hair misplaced on my head, and not a wrinkle appeared on my clothes.

By this time, my client was probably thinking I’m seriously disturbed or a pathological liar.

If I had been attacked, it would be evident by my torn and dirty cloths; no smile could hide the fear and shock of that tragic event.

Moral of the story. When we proclaim we are a christian, and profess God to be the creator of all things, and acknowledge we will one day be standing face to face with him, and follow his word then…

We don’t look the same!! We don’t look like the world. Our life is going to change, and we are going to look different.

As Americans, we have this constant need to do what feels right, what we think is right. If it feels good, if it feels right; therefore it must be right.

Just a few common scenarios I think some of us could relate to..

When my anxiety is high, I love staying up late eating a whole carton of rocky road ice cream.

Gods Response: Philippians 3:19 Their end is destruction, their god is their belly, and they glory in their shame, with minds set on earthly things.

I have a friend of the opposite sex that I talk to often about personal feelings. It feels so good to have someone who appreciates and listens to my feelings since my husband never does.

God’s Response: 2 Timothy 2:12 So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

I feel like I should to start working again to make some extra income for my family. My husband already works, but I’d like to be able to afford a new SUV. I’m sure the kids won’t mind spending a few days of the week at daycare.

God’s Response: Ephesians 2:7 So that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
-These are the only riches that God promises us

I only have a couple of glasses of wine on days my kids are absolute terrors. I know I should pray about it, but I feel so much more relaxed after my wine.

Gods Response: 1 Corinthians 3:19 So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

We do these things because they make us feel good, if we recognized our actions as wrong we probably wouldn’t do them.

Did you hear about Mark, Nancy’s husband? I guess he’s moving out. Apparently, he was spending too many late nights at work. Bless her heart; we will definitely add her to our prayer chain.

Gods Response: Ephesians 4:29- Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

So often we are like the roadrunner, we don’t realize the corruption we are causing until we run off the cliff and look down.

As sinners, we need to acknowledge our inner feelings can’t be trusted. If our actions look like the rest of world, then that should be an automatic red flag.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight

When we place of faith in our feelings and trust in what feels right or good, we will find ourselves stepping off the cliff every time.

Only when we lean on God with our feelings, troubles, and victories will we be living a life pleasing to him and a life that is a true reflection of what it means to be a Christian.

Honey, Lamb and I

Finding Identity in Him

Finding Christ during Weightloss

Finding your Identity in Christ

Finding Christ during Weightloss

To the mom who thinks she’s fat,

Has it been 3 months, 4 days, 3 hours and 59 minutes since you last had a good night sleep?  Chances are you probably can’t remember the last time you actually slept through the night after having a baby.  Here’s the thing about no sleep, it makes you a little crazy.

Ok, it makes me a whole a lot of crazy plus throw in imbalanced hormones, and your mind starts going to crazy irrational places.

No matter how good or bad my day was going weeks after having a baby I couldn’t stop obsessing over how much I felt like a fat sack of lard. So harsh, I know.

While pregnant you probably read that breastfeeding ‘’burns’’ calories. Thus, making weight loss just a little easier.  For some, it takes no time at all for the weight to fly off while others are still looking at the scale years later waiting on that number to drop.

I would have days when I struggled so much with my weight that every thought I had ended with because I’m fat. My struggles or thoughts for the day had nothing to do with my weight, but yet that’s where my mind went.

It doesn’t help that everywhere you turn on social media, Pinterest or at the grocery store as you check out, you are bombarded with exciting weightless stories.   They excitedly proclaim  how certain women lost their baby weight in as little as 6 weeks and now they are back to having a 6 pack.

Sure, you can view those stories as inspiring or encouraging, but honestly, they are depressing so very depressing.

Studies found that on average it takes women 18 months after having a baby to start feeling confident again.

This tells me one thing.

Gaining your confidence back takes time and doesn’t happen overnight.

Pregnancy and the months after having baby can bring on many irrational and negative thoughts even during a happy and exciting time.

Obsessing over weight loss and your old body and life can destroy.  It will corrode your body mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Finding Christ during Weightloss

The world tells us we aren’t good enough or pretty enough if we aren’t at our ideal weight.

Our identity is not in the number that reads on the scale. Our identity is found in the one who knows the number of hairs on our head.

What exactly does it mean to know our identity in Christ? It means we know and accept these verses to always be true.

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this.  While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Meaning-You are so loved

1 Corinthians 6:20  For you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Meaning-You are treasured and valuable

Hebrews 13:5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have.  God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

Meaning-You are accepted and never alone

If we believe that we are loved, valued, and accepted then we may struggle with things like weight loss, but we don’t let extra pounds on the scale define us.

When we have thoughts of doubt and insecurity, we don’t dwell on them, but instead, we dwell in Him.

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Only when we find our value in Him will we truly feel free from the pressures and anxieties of the world.  Only then will we feel comfortable in our skin.

Sincerely, just another mom dealing with insecurities and striving to know her identity in Christ.

Honey, Lamb and I