How Early Childhood Development Schools Can Cause more Harm than Help

Reasons Why You Shouldn't Put Your Kids in Daycare

Our oldest child is nearing the age of four which starts to bring up the concerns about her education.  The government is pushing for early education, and in our city more public and private schools are offering pre-k at four.  This is a complete contrast of how other countries view early childhood development.

As I was researching schools, I came across several daycares “early developmental schools” including ones that were rated highest in the state. I was intrigued, even impressed with their premises and goals for our children.

After more research, I was horrified by the stories of illnesses, bullying and neglect occurring at their prestigious “institutions.”

To be honest, my heart just hurts.  My heart cries at the thought that a mom or dad could drop off their newborn baby or toddler at an award winning “school” or even worse a cheap one at 6:30 in the morning and not see them again until 6:30 at night.

The biggest argument for early childhood care is that family’s needs two incomes.  We comfort those who profess this by saying we know you’re doing what’s best for your family.

In all honestly, if Christians believe this we are feeding them comfort instead of biblical truth.

  1. We are saying that having two incomes to support higher spending habits is ok.
  2. Having strangers raise our children isn’t harmful to our family.

The simple truth: The majority of people who defend the use of daycare are not willing to sacrifice their lifestyle or personal gain for their children.

Trust me, I understand. It is a huge sacrifice. My family would greatly benefit from me working full-time with benefits while my husband finishes his master’s program.

Instead, we both work two part time jobs so one of us can be home with the kids.

It means driving old cars instead of new ones, having Netflix and chill instead of restaurant dates. It’s hard to give up a comfortable lifestyle but never once do I doubt our decision.

My intention for this post isn’t to judge, hurt or shame parents of a two working household but instead to challenge them.  As Christians, we need to challenge each other to live godly lives and to uphold the truths of his kingdom.

Whether it’s the mom, dad or even a close relative, a child especially babies in the first six month months NEED family members that are invested in their spiritual and mental development for life.

No matter how many awards your daycare earns, they will never NEVER come close to the investment parents make in their children.

As Christians, we should stop walking on eggshells and support, promote, and encourage a godly lifestyle.

7 Reason Why Daycare Harms Your Family

1. Undermines Parent’s Rules and Philosophy

Children have two sets our rules: home rules and daycare rules.

Grade school children can make sense of this, but for children under five, this is a highly difficult concept to comprehend.

Daycares don’t hold the same moral, biblical values and concepts.

2 timothy 3:16 Every scripture is inspired by God and useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, 17 that the person dedicated to God may be capable and equipped for every good work.

2. Comprises Children’s Safety

No matter how safe they claim to be or how many cameras are posted throughout the building.  Childcare places are most invested in the livelihood of their business.  They have to be. Otherwise, they wouldn’t make it after year one.

Of course, I believe some do care about your children but above your kids is their profit.

Proof of this is how poorly they pay their employees.

Do you think they are going to inform you every time your child is bullied or neglected?

Absolutely not, that would cause great harm to their business.

3. Children Miss the Opportunity to Bond with Their Siblings

In today’s world, we grow up with a sense of family that’s based more of  choice than biology.  Our family is the people that show up whether that means blood relatives or not.

Children miss the chance to bond with their siblings. The relationship they create at a young age is so pure and irreplaceable.

God specifically chose you to the mother to you child.

He also handpicked your child’s sibling so that they would have an irreplaceable bond for life.

4. Promotes survival of the fittest mentality

Kids need to socialize and interact with other children their age whether they are Christian or not. Absolutely.

However, in many instances, I would argue that you probably need to be present and social interactions don’t need to last 8 hours when children are so young.

Daycare teaches survival of the fittest.  Kids learn behaviors and actions they wouldn’t ordinarily learn at home to survive with their peers.

As babies and young children, this is the last skill they need to be learning.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.”

5.  Most importantly. Parents miss out on precious opportunities

This saddens me the most.  The thought of a sweet child asking o\r talking to their teacher about God only to be dismissed or ignored.

Parents miss out on valuable teaching moments that can’t be replaced by their two paychecks.

Parents miss out on the development of their child that was woven together in their womb.

Their first smile, crawl, and first word.

Ephesians 5:1 We are to be imitators of God, our Heavenly Father, as beloved children.

6.  Babies Learning Suffers

Learning requires emotional attachment to a caregiver.

So, for a young child to learn, they have to feel safe and trust their environment.

Daycare creates an unhealthy attachment and bond to a person earning minimum wage and has no investment in your child

From cradle to grade school the people your child should trust is you, their parents.

7. Comprises Child’s Health

The American Pediatric Association states children who attend daycare have an increased risk of illness due to inadequate hygiene while changing diapers, toilet training, hand washing, and poor overall cleaning.

In addition, the APA also states that daycares in U.S and Canada are responsible for the epidemic of ear infections.

This is increasing and incredibly dangerous for newborn babies and has negative and even deadly consequences.

I whole heartedly believe each one of you is doing what you think is right for your family, but the problem with doing what’s right is you can be wrong even though it feels right.

Therefore, I plead with you as we raise our precious children that we don’t do what we believe to be true in our heart because our heart will deceive us.  I pray we don’t do what feels right because our feelings can’t be trusted, and I pray we do what the Bible teaches and be imitators of God for our children.

*http://bmcpublichealth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1471-2458-8-212
*http://umm.edu/health/medical/reports/articles/ear-infections

Honey, Lamb and I

 

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5 comments on “7 Reasons Daycare Harms the Christian Family”

  1. [email protected] says:

    Good points here. I understand the struggle and how controversial this is, but I agree with you. My husband and I chose to do the same thing; he’s finishing grad school and i worked part time so that we could be with our daughter at home. Now that we have two kids, I am staying home full-time, which was an even bigger decision. I realize that for some people (and, given other circumstances, it might have been us) it just isn’t feasible to have their children at home and, no matter how much they scrimp, they can’t make it work financially. It frustrates me, though, that this is the case. I know many children can go to daycare and they’re just fine; I really appreciate having my children home with me, though.

    • Hey Bethany, I’m so glad that you guys were able to make it work. Grad school, kids, and working can be sooo stressful! I agree, for some people, it isn’t an option, especially for single parents and lower income families. I guess I’m speaking more for people who have big houses and fancy cars and have a second income to keep up with that lifestyle. Thanks for your thoughts.

  2. Wow, Girl. You weren’t kidding about this being a controversial topic! 😉 But I would have to say you hit it out of the ballpark. You handled it with grace and understanding, and even tho I’m sure you’ll get some backlash for it, I think God would be proud also. Daycare and the thought of it hurts my heart. I can’t imagine someone else having all these moments with the babies that I carried and labored for. Even when it’s frustrating, I would have it no other way. I agree it can be hard financially to lose income #2, but in the end it’s always so, so worth it. <3 Thanks for tackling such a hard subject!

    • Hi Tiffany, Thank you so much for your support and kind words it makes tackling a hard subject a little less nerve wracking!

  3. As a former daycare teacher, I agree with this post completely, and I’m glad you were willing to tackle the issue in your blog. I recently wrote a post about this topic and got terrible backlash for it, but I think it’s important to stand up for what is right regardless of what people say. It’s a touchy subject, because no one wants to believe that they aren’t doing what’s best for their children.

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